
Grief Counseling today made the Can Opener feel better. Now I need therapy!
Now that the human is starting to feel more like herself, Sushi and I are getting nervous. Now she might start thinking about things other than preparing for the upcoming Celebration of life- and start thinking more about other things… like taking Sushi and me to the vet! Or, clipping my claws, or re-arranging the house -(again)- or buying the wrong cat food- or worse yet, VACUUMMING!
That’s what she did yesterday – (conveniently right after I settled in for a nice, long, nap). She moved everything out and vacuumed everything in the house! Moving out couches, chairs, the Critter’s toys, the entire house, and even the cat tree!! Now it’s polluted! The worst part is, every time she turned it off for a little bit, and I started to relax, she turned it on again!
Two hours later, my nerves were shot, Sushi was still asleep, and the human was just getting started. I told her to cut it out because she’s seriously messing up my life and making me look bad to the other cats in the neighborhood- Lucky for me, she was hungry, so she finally put the electronic beast away and gave it a rest. But my nerves were shot for the rest of the day and I couldn’t find the catnip anywhere. I think she’s secretly trying to kill me to save on cat food.
More later. I hear a can opening…

Ah work! It helps one think of all kinds of things whilst one works…and it gets rid of a lot of restless energy, to make that energy useful and productive. You may come here next…LOL!
Glad the therapy is helpful.
Years and years ago, when I was working in the hospital, we tragically lost a 16 year old girl…and we had a young man in there, with a closed head injury. The man was so sick, we did not think he would live. (But he did and he went back to university). Anyways, even the docs there were taken aback by the circumstances in our unit, and one sat down and bawled…us staff let him, and then we all hugged him, because he was so beside himself and needed to feel loved.
Then after I finished my shift I went to my boyfriend’s house…and there was a sad show on the TV…suddenly I just had a flood of tears without warning, and I wept for a long time before I was able to gather myself back together again.
That was a strange thing for me, but it shows how grief can hit you in so many ways. Those peeps were not even my friends, let alone family…but yes, I had to watch it all, and felt helpless.
Nowadays where I work, if a resident passes away, they often have counseling available for us staff, because they know how we get attached to them and its important to be able to not repress the grief, for the sake of our own families, ourselves and our mental wellbeing.
Yikes, I just made a comment turn into an epistle!
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The cleaning seems to help me feel better- ) not to mention feeling relieved- when all this stuff was going on i had my hands full just taking care of my husband and the kitties- things like deep cleaning and organizing had to wait. Now of course, there’s also the fact that there’s no one else here to help- so if I don’t do it, it won’t happen. Twilight and Sushi, however, would be perfectly fine if i didn’t bother!😸
I know what you mean about grief suddenly hitting you. Night before last, I was sitting in the couch with Sushi all snuggled up in my lap, and was going to do a post from my phone-(so I wouldn’t have to get up and disturb her).
So I was looking at the pictures on my phone for pictures to use in the post, and ran across the last selfie my husband had sent me. Since he died, I’ve looked at that selfie countless times and smiled and felt better- but an unexpected thing happened this time. Instead of making me smile, it made me feel like I’d suddenly been stabbed. I can’t verbalize how it made me feel- but it completely shut me down.
Later today I will post more on this. The things the counselor told me when I shared this helped me understand why.
Thank you for sharing that story with me- I understand completely how something like that can hit hard even though you’re not related to the person.
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Oh meow is me, not the vacuum!
Purrseidon
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Oh yes- that big collection of plastic and dustbunnies has to go. That thing curls my whiskers! But the Can Opener says it’s the only way to get all our fur out of the carpet-(she’s so insensitive! We work so hard to make that old carpet look better and then she erases all our efforts)!
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Whatever works is good! Counseling and cleaning are tried and true methods. Just don’t forget to take care of yourself.❤️
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Thank you- That’s exactly what I’ll going to do today. I’ll be posting more about this later today- or helped so much!
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Glad you are finding a way out of some of the grimness. Purrayers..
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Thank you- I’m working on it , but it will clearly take some time. Yet again today, things have changed my plans-(now I’m not feeling well)- so although I had planned to post right, it doesn’t look like I’ll be able to.
Hoping I’ll feel better in the morning. Thank you for your prayers!
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If she finds vacuuming therapeutic, she can vacuum my house anytime she wants. 🙂 XO
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Mol!! She was already planning to vacuum again today-(to stay ahead of my decorating plans for the carpet)- but this afternoon she started feeling sick-so Sushi and I get to keep decorating!!! We’re going to make it GOOD!😽
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Busy helps. Though as someone said, taking care of self is just as if not more important than house work. Five years in and there are still things that strike the heart, though its more a comforting memory.
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Yes- the kids asked for pictures for the Celebration of life we’re planning- and i just can’t do it right now. I’ll try again tomorrow.
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One day, one moment, one breath at a time.
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Yes- Thank you
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You are welcome. It isn’t always easy. I learned that myself. I did learn that if I held myself to the one day, one moment, one breath mantra, it helped.
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I agree that “One day at a time” is the way to go. I usually do okay as long as I keep that in mind. I actually still have a hard time just knowing it’s real. But it is.
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I know that feeling all too well. Since my late husband was a long haul truck driver he was gone more than he was home. I was used to that but it made it too easy to live in denial. He’ll be home soon, he will call soon..even as I knew he wouldn’t.
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Yes- mine was always in the bedroom all day the last few months, while I was always busy everywhere else. So it still just kind of feels like he’s just trying to sleep in the bedroom- and then I remember he isn’t. And he isn’t out for a walk, or at church, or anything else where I can expect him home soon. It’s hard.
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It is. I’ve seen, and I’m sure you may have as well, the comment is that grief is love with nowhere to go. When they have been a part of life as we know it for so long, it is very hard when they are gone.
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Actually, I’ve never heard that until now- That’s a great way to explain how it feels! It’s nice to know others that have experienced these feelings too. Thank you
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You are most welcome. It does help at least somewhat, when we know others have dealt with the same things we are facing.
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It really does- because only someone who has experienced it can really understand- and that helps me (or whoever) to not feel quite so ‘alone.’
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That is true. I think it always helps when there is someone who has gone before and can help lead the way. It is a very confusing path is walk of grief.
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Yes- confusing and if we’re not careful- paralyzing. So thankful I’m getting counseling. I had counseling this morning and a doctor appointment afterward. Very busy and tiring day. But I’ll be back to post tomorrow!
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Yes, get some rest. That is important.
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It definitely is- After grief counseling yesterday, I went to the doctor to discuss some issues I’ve been having since my husband died-(and to set up and complete physical)- and this evening when the girls go home, I will be posting about it- I’m case someone else may be having similar issues. Thank you so much for hanging in there and not working on my blog when I can’t post as often. I really DO appreciate it! (I let the cats think it’s theirs, since they think they’re human)..,
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I fully understand. One doesn’t want upset kitties as they can and do get revenge. Even though its been nearly 5 years, I still share things from time to time in case, as you say someone has similar issues.
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It’s really overwhelming the support I’ve received from all “my” readers- it is such a wonderful and unexpected blessing!
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It is indeed. I am very glad they are there for you.
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So am I.💗
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Mee-yow Twiligth you sure had a ruff time with Missus Cee-O runnin vacuum so much! Cleenin iss therapee fore Hu’manss….sumtimess they just go a wee bit (ALOT) overboard!
Mee sorry yorre nervess are all jiggly an YOU need therapee!
Mee just goess to sleep INN mee pillow on BellaSita’ss bed 😉
Mew mew mew…….
**nose rubss** BellaDharma an ((huggiess)) BellaSita Mum
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Oh that human of ours! She didn’t vacuum yesterday, but she’s threatening to do it again today-(*shudders*)- the only good news is she plans to help us post first because she had to be busy with other stuff the last couple of days. Maybe I can make her get too sleepy to vacuum…
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Ddi you get yore Hu’man too sleepy to vacuum Twilight?? Mee hopess so!
Sorry mee spelled yore name wrong…sumtiemss mee pawss go two fast 😉
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MOL! I sure did!! She isn’t happy about it, but hey- a cat’s gotta do what a cat’s gotta do!
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Yore rite wee gotta due what wee gotta due Twilight an Sushi 😉
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Now if I could just make the Can Opener understand that…
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Sumtimess Hu’manss take a little time to teech… wee need to bee payshunt 🙂
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What’s that??
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It’s weird how cleaning makes humans feel better. Noisy cleaning. Purrs, Snoops and Kommando Kitty
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Yes. I think it’s because you’re too busy thinking about whatever you’re cleaning (or organizing)– to dwell for too long on other things. The problem is, you can only clean for so long!
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Mew mew mew Sushi an Twilight “Payshuntss” iss a way wee stay calm an give out Hu’manss tiem to leern what they need to due fore us….
“Now where THE H*LLO Kitty are those treetss BellaSita Mum?!?!?!” 😉
*scrap mee deffynition mee frendss…….*
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MOL! Sounds like you’re very patient!
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Mee ackshully iss more payshunt than BellaSita Mum 😉
Go figure?
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Mol!! 😸 Well those humans have a lot of something they call “stress” and apparently that makes them grumpier than a cat on a hot tin roof. But we still have to watch ourselves with them-(because after all, they are a lower life form)- and if we bring out the claws, we may not get fed!
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BellaSita Mum iss grumpy alot…her pain levelss get so bad shee iss a wreck sumtimess. Mee
waitss tll her lap iss empty an then mee jumpss uo her lap an settellss down an mee does *purr therapee** That werkss guud! An mee iss leernin not to use clawss…that iss a REEL No-No with BellaSita 😉
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Yes- Pain makes humans as grumpy as it does cats. My human normally is very healthy and doesn’t usually have too much pain because she takes care of herself- but since things got crazy with the Backup Can Opener, she had a hard time. Btw- she doesn’t like the claws either- she Clips mine off I accidentally scratch her!
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Sumtiemss even when Hu’man’ss take care of themselvess they still get sick an get grumpy.
BellaSita Mum iss happyer inn mornin an afturnoon…bye 4 Pee Em shee startss to get tired an cranky……
An yore rite; if sumthin goes haywore inn their life; it can REELLY affect efurryoen sum way!!
Mee iss too wild fore BellaSita to due Mani/Pedi so mee has Miss Rachel an Mistur Rob come to our place efurry 4rd month an due mee nailss fore mee! Home Sirvice iss PAWSUM!!! 😉
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Our Can Opener needs to get that service- Sushi tries to kill her when she (attempts) to clip her nails! And those babies are LONG!
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Miss Rachel an Mistur Rob run a Rescue an Reesort fore Kittiess an Poochiess. They allso due monthly nail trimmin @ low-cal pet supply store! An they just started their moe-bile nail trimmin sirvice!! Iss a life saver fore sure Twilight an Sushi!!! 😉
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Hey- That’s an excellent idea! Our human has never thought to see if there’s a service like that here! Watch out, Sushi!! MOL!😹
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It wuud bee purrfect if there was a moe-bile nail trimmin sirivce fore sure 😉
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I think it will take the U.S. Marines to get Sushi’s nails done! (Or a tranquilizer gun)… she turns into a whole other cat at the touch of her paws
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Mee heerss you Twilight mee Aunty NYLABLUE used to beecome a WERECAT an wuud go coo-gurr wild on BellaSita or anyone! So when shee was at THE Vet’ss THE assistant wuud put on leather glovess an hold Aunty an Vet Man wuud clip as fast as hee cuud!
Once dun, they wuud put Aunty NYLABLUE on table an shee wuud PEE!!! Yet at home shee was THE cleenest Queenly lady cat!!! Mew mew mew……..
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I just advised the Can Opener to take the Boulder to the vet and let the vet get shredded instead. It’s a win- win situation. Sushi gets her claws done, and the vet won’t be able to clip MINE! MWAHAHAHAHA!
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Twilight yore a GEENEUSS!!!! 😉
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Why thank you!
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